In my work as a business coach in the past, I have noticed that a large part of the problems at work (e.g. miscommunication, people who get stuck, the non-functioning teams) were often also due to problems on a personal level.
That is why, during my business coaching period, I already started to study personal development more deeply. Mainly because at the end of the day after the workshops people often told me very personal stories and sometimes shared some pretty intimate personal problems with me. I wanted to be better equipped to be able to deal with that, even as a business coach for managers. Firstly, I dedicated myself to take a closer look at myself and my own life.
While I was working on that, I discovered that, just as in my business coaching, I preferred practical tools, techniques that I could easily take home with me and apply straight away in the hectic moments of my daily life. I am a doer, a goal-oriented action taker. Of course, it is very nice to be able to meditate for 10, 15 or 20 minutes, something I do on a regular basis, and also find very difficult at times, but after meditating you have to return to the real world. The real world doesn’t always care for your Zen feeling and certainly doesn’t leave you alone long enough to fully enjoy it.
And yes, it is lovely to empty your head and find peace within the mayhem, however, most people can’t just walk away from an unpleasant situation immediately. You can’t always resign from work and find a new job when things haven’t been going well there for a while. As far as home situations are concerned, there also, we often encounter issues that you can’t solve just like that, sick partners, children or family members that you have to take care of alongside everything else, relationship problems that don’t disappear like snow melting in the sun. Not to mention our own emotions, overtiredness, depressive feelings and fears. We certainly cannot easily escape ourselves and run away from our own feelings.
That’s why I was looking for methods to make us more resilient, even if the situation in which we find ourselves, which is unpleasant and stressful, will not change in the foreseeable future. In search of those practical tools I found out that there are (fortunately) several currents within the hype of Mindfulness, since I certainly needed a more psychological foundation below the cushion. Moreover, the techniques had to be reasonably easy to perform at home and people should not need to study and practice for years. Hence the final combination MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction), MiCBT (Mindfulness-integrated Cognitive Behaviour Therapy), and Sophrology.
These are relatively short, simple, practical exercises you can perform when back home to ensure that we become more stress resistant instead of easily unbalanced by situations or events outside of us that swe cannot immediately escape from. Emphasis is placed on increasing positive factors in life and / or experiencing more positivity. Sophrology contributes by means of exercises that make you feel conscious of and present in your body, increases the contact between body and mind and provides insight into how our state of mind influences physical reactions. The combination enhances, among other things, personal empowerment, enables us to take full responsibility for matters that are within our control, understand and realise that we have way more grip on matters than we think, and helps us to more easily distance ourselves from and let go of things that are not beneficial to your well-being. All this is within the framework of our own comfort zone without losing sight of the relationship with your surroundings.